I find myself smiling as I remember a male friend saying to me “how many dates do I need to remember?”
It’s true, isn’t it. We girls have a date for everything, the date we met, the date we first kissed, the date we started going out, the date of our engagement and then the wedding anniversary date too and not to mention birthdays.
Wouldn’t it be romantic if our guy actually remembered all these dates, it would show us he loved us, that we are special and important to him, right?
Well, let me share with you a little secret. Some men do remember dates and it feels great when they do, but most men don’t. It’s not because they don’t want to, they would love to, they know how important it is to their lady that they remember, they want to please their lady to no end, truly they do.
Guys think differently than us women, they are focus driven, results driven, all about getting things done and then moving onto the next thing. They don’t remember facts and details, once its done, its done, gone, finished.
It’s a girl thing to remember, we hold onto details, onto facts, its part of the differences of men and women.
To a man every day, every moment he spends with HIS lady is special, no one day is more special than the other, they are all special and meaningful to him, so to remember any one day more than another just doesn’t happen.
If you want your man to remember the anniversaries be ok with reminding him, leave him little notes around the place, or tell him a week or so beforehand, maybe make it simple for him and ask him to remember just one date and be ok knowing that this is just part of who he is and its a man thing. It’s ok to work together complimenting each others strengths and working with each others weakness, if there is such a thing.
Be happy with the knowledge that every single day, every single moment he spends with you is special and important to him. He loves and adores you and wants to be with you. Now doesn’t that make you feel good 🙂
Robyn Lemsing
17th July 2014