Interesting question..
What does it mean to be a victim to your situation? What does that look like?
Let me explain.
To be a victim of your situation is to be in needof something or blaming others for the situation you are in, blaming the government, blaming someone or something else for what is happening to you or what circumstances you find yourself in.
Lets use an example of being in a situation of not having enough money to pay the bills. We can come across as a victim in a couple of ways, we could be saying that we need money, which comes across as desperate and as a victim or we can be blaming others for the situation, believing it outside influences that has caused this to happen to you, not enough jobs, your too old to get work, it is the ex’s fault, could be any number of reasons or excuses for passing the blame to someone or something else.
By doing this you have given your power away to the whatever or whoever you see is to blame for you circumstances. You have not taken full responsibility for it, and have passed the responsibility onto others to fix it as well. You have not owned it for yourself and therefore believe it is out of your control and are a victim to the situation.
In the case where we keep expressing our needs, we need money, we need a job, we need……..
We all know the feeling of when others come across needy to us. It is not a nice feeling, it is not a nice vibration and we generally do not want much to do with those types of people. Same goes with us, this is the energy and the vibration we are projecting outward when we are in the state of need and blaming and expressing that, it is that vibration that will attract more of same situation, more of being in a place of need and being needy and blaming, desperate and not knowing why we keep getting the same thing over and over again.
We have to change our perception, change our minds and change our vibrations away from victim mentality.
How do we do this you may ask?
You maybe saying “but I need the money, I have no way to pay the bills, that you are broke”, etc… Believe me I know what that feels like and have been in that situation myself and yes I was in victim mode for a very long time without realising that I was.
I know the feelings of hopelessness, the feeling of being helpless, of feeling stuck and not knowing how you are going to get out of this situation, feeling like this has no end and you are constantly bogged down by worry and stress about how you are going to pay for that next bill. Believe me I know this all too well.
So how do we change our minds, perceptions and vibrations?
For me it all comes down to choice, making a decision to take back my power, to take responsibility, to own the situation and take back control.
Realising I have the power within me to change the situation, knowing I will get through this, knowing some how, some way the solution will come, the answers will come, the opportunities appear, doors open and everything will be fine. Knowing I have this and that it is not going to beat me. Decide not to be a victim to it, decide to rise above it.
It is not a matter of knowing how you will overcome this situation but more a matter of knowing and trusting that you will, it is believing that things will get better and believing that somehow you will get through this, some how from somewhere the money comes, believe in that, you may not believe in yourself just yet but have faith, trust and believe things will improve, focus on the outcome you want and believe 100% that this is happening and coming into fruition. Be joyful for the knowing. It is not up to you to know how, it is up to you to believe that it will change and is changing.
It is much like when you are sick with a cold, you know you will get better and you do, you know it is only temporary and it is, you know some day, some how you will get better and it is just a matter of time, but the knowing you will get better is there. Apply this same mentality to this situation, have that knowing.
When we change our perception and look upon the situation with fresh eyes and realise that it is just where we are at right now but that does not mean it will be like that forever and it is only temporary depending on how long it takes us to have a shift in perception and vibration.
When you can look at your situation and smile or even laugh at it and it has no negative emotional weight then you know that it has no power over you. If it still stirs up emotions such as frustration, sadness, hopelessness, fear, anxiety, then it still has power over you.
Allow the solutions, the ideas to come to you. When you let go of all the worry and stress and are in a place of knowing, a place of faith, trust and belief this is when ideas pop into your head, or someone mentions something that will help, or opportunities appear. Let go and allow the universe and the energy to shift and align to your new vibration.
Decide to take back your power, decide to take control, decide to not be in victim mode any longer, decide to learn from it, learn from the mistakes you may have made, learn from the experience and maybe some day you may want to share with others how you where able to shift your mentality, your perception, vibration and situation into a more healthy and positive outcome.
Robyn Lemsing
27th March 2018