Insights

  • Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself

    This morning, I could feel someone I know was being hard on themselves and I was inspired to write this. Don’t be so hard on yourself, there is no need, all is well. I know you feel that you have done wrong and perhaps have hurt someone, but being down on yourself and giving yourself…

  • Letting Go Of The Old Self

    Yesterday I felt sad, I have been feeling sad for the past week, it felt like I could cry if I gave myself the time and space to do so, it seems like a letting go, grieving feeling, missing an ex but also letting go of that too. I distracted myself again as usual to…

  • Giving Myself Permission

    This morning during mediation I had glimpses of conversations with two people I know. In these conversations I was saying things I would have not said in the past. In the past I would most likely not say anything and stay quiet, keeping the peace, people pleasing behaviour, staying small but in the brief conversations…

  • Non-Attachment

    When reflecting on the past and our experiences it can sometimes be easy to fall into victim or survivor mode. It is said and I know from my own experiences, that our life lessons, traumas and experiences are not only a reflection of ourselves of what is inside us that needs to be seen and…

  • Connection Is The Vital Ingredient

    Connection is the vital ingredient in a relationship for both men & women. The number one reason people cheat is due to lack of connection. If you want to improve your relationship, make time each and every day to talk and connect with your partner, one on one quality time, no tv, no computer, no…

  • Twin Flames

    This morning, I watched a video on YouTube about twin flames. I am not sure if I believe in twin flames or not. I originally heard of the term many years ago liked the idea of the same soul in two different bodied or the soul being divided into two and put into two different…

  • Taking Back Control Of Your Time

    Mobile phones these days can be very distracting and can take a lot of our time. It is so easy to see a notification and FaceBook and go and check it out, then find your self scrolling through and seeing what is in your news feed. Messages come via messenger or other social media applications…

  • Evolution Of People

    I seem to forget that others have not done as much inner work as myself and don’t realise that when I speak about events, past or present, that there is no emotion attached, that I speak factually. This happened, that happened, nothing else, no whinge, no complain, no victim, no poor me, just a statement…

  • Complicating Things Unnecessary

    The other day I walked into my office where most of my business ideas, notes, plans etc are and in an instant I had a feeling, sensation, a voice tell me that non of it mattered anymore. Sitting back today reflecting, it seems I have no need , no desire to try to build, to…

  • Seeking Attention Outside Of Myself

    Here I am looking at what he is reflecting to me. If we are experiencing the same things etc. Then what is in me that needs healing? I see that I am one of many, that he is messaging and seeing others, why? Is it an addiction, craving the attention of women? Do I crave…

  • Inner Conflict

    Holding onto attachment, holding onto how it should look and of when. Self motivation – I use male energy to get going on projects but then stop. I sabotage. I also need to move forward with female energy – blog/write/ photos from feminine. There seems to be conflict within me. Wanting to be authentic, to…

  • Does Love Actually Exist?

    I wonder…. You hear beautiful songs of love and see it in movies, but does it really exist?. Are we chasing a fantasy, some make believe idea of love and relationships? Do people even know how to love these days or are we (I say we in a very broad and general way) so busy…

  • The Journey Of Us

    I could question, why? Why this late in life that we finally meet again to come together? Although we still have some logistics to work through until we are properly together, I am turning 51 this year and have like most of us been waiting and wanting to be with the man of my dreams…

  • Unconditional Love

    Do I have anything to worry about here? No, not at all. I think it is all lessons for me to accept him as he is, to accept the situation as it is, to let go of control, to love unconditionally. I know he loves me – he may not say it often, may not…

  • Bit By Bit

    Today I am feeling a bit emotional. I left work questioning myself, “What is wrong with me?” I have been expecting some sort of contact from a guy I know and thinking that perhaps he will never contact me again. This started the questioning of myself. Which led to other similar thoughts of not being…

  • The Fool – Unconditional Love

    The fool – that’s me – I will forgive myself, I will come to see that this is behaviour of yours and at this moment you don’t know any better, that this is where you are at, at the moment. That I need to accept you – I need to have understanding and compassion for…

  • I Do Matter

    I used to always get what I wanted and it would come easy to me, life was easy and what I have to say does matter, I do matter and if others don’t agree its ok. I have a great deal of value to give to this world, just my presence and energy is enough…

  • How Do You See Others?

    I had an experience yesterday that made me realise something about how we see other people. When I refer to other people I mean all people, the ones that are close to us, the ones we only see now and then and it also refers to people we know in the news or media. I…

  • What If?

    What if we could really have everything we desired? What if the sky was really the limit? Can you allow your self to even think this is possible? I was sitting back and reflecting earlier today and thinking of some goals and what I am wanting to achieve in life and in my mind mapping…

  • Are You Being A Victim To Your Situation?

    Interesting question.. What does it mean to be a victim to your situation? What does that look like? Let me explain. To be a victim of your situation is to be in needof something or blaming others for the situation you are in, blaming the government, blaming someone or something else for what is happening…

  • Our Experiences Do Not Define Us

    Some of my previous posts have been about my experience when in a abusive relationship with my ex-husband. I want to point out that even though I had this experience, it does not define who I am. I am not hanging on to any of it and it doesn’t effect my life any more. There…

  • Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

    Over the past 10 years I have searched and looked for ways to help me and my kids out of this dark place we were in. It was a deep dark hole and I needed help, I need a way out, I needed some relief from the depression, the feelings of hopelessness, of not good…

  • Why Do Abusers Abuse?

    I know what I am about to say may spark some criticism and some people may not agree with me and that is fine. What I share are my thoughts, my observations and my opinions. For a long time now I have been thinking about how different parenting styles can have an effect on how…

  • Letting Go Of Needing Money

    Today I want to talk about the feelings, thoughts and energy of needing money. I know that when there is not a lot of money to pay the bills that our thoughts and energy are one of needing. We are focused on what we need. It consumes our days, our lives, the constant worry, wondering…

  • Is Clutter Affecting Your Clarity?

    Have you ever felt confused? If so, you’ll know that it can become very overwhelming at times and because of this there is time wasted in worry and procrastination. I remember when I was confused, I found it hard to focus. After doing some decluttering, I learned that I had much more clarity. In this…

  • Happy Ever After

    Here I sit, the day after a three year relationship I was in has ended. I was scrolling through my newsfeed on Facebook a bit earlier and found a short video explaining the difference between attachment and love and I totally agree with what the monk was saying which was attachment is holding on tight…

  • Why This Year Is The Year I Stop Pleasing Others!

    Well here we are at a brand new year. Yes it is 2018 and a totally new year, a new start, a new chapter, hopefully a new life. Today is the day most people make their new year’s resolutions, probably after a hard night out partying, drinking too much, over eating. Most new year’s resolutions…

  • Believe IN Yourself

    Today I had a conversation with a friend. He was promoting an online business opportunity and the ad said all you had to do was post pre-written ads and get paid. Upon paying and signing up I found it was something entirely different. It was a form of network marketing, team building, etc. When I…

  • Day To Start Writing

    So the day has come to start writing. I have watched and observed myself over the past days and seen that I have procrastinated and distracted myself so much, why? Why do I do that? When it brings me so much joy, why would I not make time to do something I love to do?…

  • The Story Behind The Blog

    Today I wish to introduce myself and share with you the reason why I started this blog page. My name is Robyn, I am a sole parent after separating from my first husband 10 years ago due to domestic violence. It has been a long road to recovery and this blog is the sharing of…

  • Human Behaviour

    Well, here I am embarking on this journey of becoming a writer, I feel nervous, anxious and as if I have nothing to share. I have no idea of how to do this, no idea what to write even. I am not good at English, grammar or spelling. I am sure there are so many…

  • The Lesson Within The Relationship

    WARNING: This article could trigger you, could push up against some of your beliefs and perspectives. Remember though what ever buttons that maybe pushed here are your buttons. Whatever labels or judgements you may want to place on this man or myself then I suggest you look within to find out why you are being…

  • What Do You Want To Do?

    This question has been troubling me for a very long time and I always thought I had to come with a profession or a career or something of significance as an answer. My first response to this question, when asked, is nothing – I want to do nothing. Now I never did voice this answer…

  • Dating

    Now here’s an interesting subject which I am sure will challenge some of you, it certainly challenged me for a while until I sat with it and processed the information I found about this interesting topic. Now the theory goes like this, up until you are engaged to marry a man, you are single, you…

  • How To Show Up Feminine

    Nowadays with women having to enter the workforce as well as men to earn enough money for the family to have a reasonable lifestyle, it can be challenging to show up feminine. Especially single mothers who are the provider and the carer and all the roles in between. We want a masculine energy guy, a…

  • Men And The Topic Of Remembering Anniversary Dates

    I find myself smiling as I remember a male friend saying to me “how many dates do I need to remember?” It’s true, isn’t it. We girls have a date for everything, the date we met, the date we first kissed, the date we started going out, the date of our engagement and then the…

  • You Need A Guy And Any Guy Will Do

    A very dear male friend of mine recently said this to me ‘It seems you need a guy and any guy will do’. This comment sparked curiosity in me and made me explore this and to see if it was actually true. I looked at patterns I have and had around relationships and I looked…

  • Clarity

    What a difference clarity can make to how you feel and your energy. The past few days I have been feeling heavy, sad, confused, worried and stressed. There has been certain challenges this week and I thought it was these challenges that were making me feel stressed, even though I had been moving through them,…

  • Make a Choice

    Well after a few days of uncomfortable communication with my partner,I woke up to something thinking about things morning. I had been quiet with not a lot to talk about, not in a mood nor could sense anything going on just not a lot to talk about, this caused some conflict within myself as I…

  • My Journey 2011

    My journey 21.1.11    Today I was made to realise that everything I did or intended to do was to inspire others or help others, maybe make it into a business opportunity. That I was to fill some very big shoes. Like simply saying I want to dance, made me think, I can’t do that, I’m…